Our magical kitchen

Imagine that you have a magical kitchen in which whatever you wished for to eat would be made. Without any effort the food that you want would be magically cooked. You were so generous that you'd invite over people everyday to come eat from the products of your magical kitchen. It made everyone happy as well. Now one of those days someone came knocking on the door with a pizza in one hand and said "I will give you this pizza, everyday just for you. But there is one condition, that you treat me well and be good to me and let me control you."
Can you imagine what you'd say in this situation?
Personally I would laugh...he's offering me a pizza when I have this brilliant magical kitchen that can make way more pizzas. And why should i settle for his offers when I could be perfectly happy with my magical kitchen, in fact you'd invite him over and say, forget your tiny pizza come on it, I have more food. Come in and share it with me without any conditions.

Now imagine a situation in which you didn't have a magical kitchen in fact you haven't had much to eat for quite sometime and then the same guy with the pizza knocks on your door making the same offer...would you react differently?
Sure you would. You'd settle for his conditions just to satisfy your hunger everyday. In fact youll become desperate and needy. Afraid that any day the pizza man will forget you and leave you and offer the pizza to someone else.
You become possessive and obssessive in your thinking. You want to own the source of pizza to have compelete control over it. To secure that it'll serve you each day.


Now imagine that this magical kitchen is your own heart and how you feel about yourself. And instead of food, it's love.
If your magical kitchen is full of love (for God, for goodness, people and more importantly yourself) then you'll be unafraid to share it with all those around you. Indeed, people love to be around you from all the good spirit that you exude.
You aren't needy of love but you appreciate it. When someone offers to love you* especially 'conditioned' love then it becomes laughable. Why should I, when i have so much of my own to share. *(but as most people, they 'love' but with conditions like if you treat me well and if you become what i want you to be, I'll love and accept you. This isn't love at all, but it seems that society has polluted the concept of love and made it into this agreement instead of a conscious and willing acceptance and respect of how a person is completely away from neediness or desperation.)
On the other hand, if you have no love for yourself, nor for anyone how are you capable of real and unconditioned love? You'll convince yourself that it's love when I'm fact it's desperation and you'd settle for anyone who offers you the 'pizza' just because you're starving.
The first example is all about generosity and giving and sharing good times it leads to respect and trust and understanding.
The second example is about poverty and neediness which leads to possessiveness and a toxic vicious cycle of extreme jealousy and distrust.

I know many people who 'love' and commit with others simply beause they've been starved and the pizza man happened to come along.
Sometimes those kinds of relationships last however they are hell in comparison to the generous and unconditional love that is shared among people who both have a magical kitchen and decide to share its fruits together and to the world unconditionally.